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Mar 4, 2023Liked by Jet T.

Damn. Always so relevant to the times I'm facing. I don't like mixed signals, mixed messages or mixed drinks. I'm always binding and unbinding. Cutting cords and calling my energy back to me but this one here.. whew. I will try and declutter and decenter myself. Um... is there a part two to this master class? Asking for a friend (but not a mutual friends, friend).

Help!

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LOL - the intersection of social media and friendship seems ongoing at this point. lol. I'm trying to figure it out too. from my experience "cutting people off," especially in as intentional of a community as Queer Black folks, it feels hard. Though we are many, we are tied, bonded by fewer things, bring us closer. and I like that closeness, and I'm trying to honor it more.

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The imagery the honesty & brilliance in this! Also may I add very New York (if I don’t fuck with her we don’t fuck with her !) It’s hard to shake that and I don’t think I will or even want to but I hope after reading this we all take a moment to unlearn, to decenter ourselves, when all we see is how someone did us wrong, it is hard. Then social media surprises us with their photo, it’s a digital attack lol. And yes, community can still exist, and still be meaningful even when everyone don’t really rock with each other. That is revolutionary thinking. Thank you Jet.

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Digital attack is mf'n right! thanks for chiming in, Christy. i think of the ways black queer friendship is forged these days, so I feel the urgency in the desire to connect, social media makes it easier. and visually the representation of our community as united is affirming if not aspirational (depending on the aesthetics of the online portrayals). thinking about community, away from the center, kind of imposes a different responsibility and response to capital C- Community of me, and it's a daily negotiation. so happy you're here!

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